Is there true love?

So much for my 'big' plans for my 6 days leave. i.e. to eat, sleep, revision and work on my 'Bible'.

Instead i'm packed with meeting friends, plans for sentosa tmr with whatever's left of 863 in Singapore (i'm amazed how some of them still can go for a short holiday within these few days... Tiring sia...), then dim sum with them again on Tuesday b4 we start our solo on the 5th. And most importantly spending quality time with Pi...

I'm so running out of time!


Met up with Gerry and LS yesterday.

It's amazing how our topics migrated from modules to marriage issues. It strikes me that i'm no no longer young liao.. "Wo Lao le!!" >.<" Haha....

I think it's been 4 years since i've met up with LS. So much have changed since. He has completed his studies in Australia, came back for 2 yrs already, as well as getting hitched and divorced all within a year. And now we are seeing through the breakup of 1 of our oldest friends' relationship of 5 years. I'm guilty to say that i foresaw it coming 5 years ago when they got together. Just when i thought i'm to be proven wrong, things happened.

"There is no such thing as true love today...." He concluded.

I don't know. But somehow i agree with him, to about 80%. The other 20%? Is the hope that i harbour of finding true love within my lifetime.

Relationships today, i find, are based much on 2 components - the comfort of the companionship and the vision of a future together.

The innocent part of a relationship will be loving for the companionship, the comfort of being together and having someone to live your life with. The very simple and innocent side of human.

We were discussing about them and about his failed marriage, and how he justifies himself by saying they were blinded by the excitment of building a life together. These are part and parcel of relationships he says. Which then struck me...

The selfish part?
Sad to say it will be Vision of a future together. We are all selfish by nature, by the rule of the survival of the fittest. We all want something good for ourselves, even in relationships. Comfortable life together; a house over the head; enough assets to sustain our lives etc., are often the beautiful picture we paint in our minds, that this is what we want to have in our life.

We can't help it. People are getting realistic cos the society makes them so. It's a pity that the thing call money is driving the world today. And how it commands our life and how it destroy others. So the 5 Cs thingy my mum has been talking about do exist. Sometimes i wonder if women are marrying the man or the money.

I'm speaking from a female perspective. I believe most women evaded that question above. But deep down in us, we already know what we want and what our priorities are. So our actions will be geared towards achieving both the man and the money! LOL.... Then we'll go on happily deceiving ourselves that we're lucky to be with a man who has both. Take a step back and think, what if we were to choose only 1. More often than not, if the woman sees that he does not has the potential to give her the dream she wants, most likely she'll move on, no matter how painful it'll be. Becos to her it might be more painful to stay.

I know i'm making my fellow female species sound sinister, but i don't mean all of us do that, what i'm saying is, we tend to, due to external factors. I'm talking about women in general, noone in specific. Just my personal take. Dont flame me! =D

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I love him for accepting who i am.
I love him for always being there.
I love him for the companionship.
I love him for being my confidant.
I love him for our similarities in character.
I love him for being my soul mate.
I love him for respecting me as a woman.
I love him for always giving in to me.
I love him for being a simple man.
I love him for loving me.


But still, what is true love?